We Don't Find Our People — We Grow Into Them

This issue almost came out late. Not because there was nothing to say — but because I didn’t yet know what I truly wanted to share with you.

Right now, I’m on a trip in Greece. I was invited here by a tailoring house with a wonderful owner and a kind, professional team. Last night at dinner, we were deep in conversation — and I realized something I wanted to tell you.

It’s our choice. It’s how we respond to what happens around us. It’s how we choose to see things.
These days, I’m surrounded by people who inspire me. People who make me want to keep going, to move forward, to create.

We live for ourselves. We choose what shapes us. And only when we’re able to trust ourselves, love ourselves, and accept ourselves — can we truly be in communities where we feel accepted in return.

There was a time I realized how deeply we influence our environment.We don’t just meet people by chance. We choose our circle.

You know that phrase — “Show me your five closest friends, and I’ll show you who you are”?

I once looked at my circle and realized: I’m a good person. Because all of them — they were kind, grounded, real.

But I also had to let go of people. People I always felt drained after seeing. So I asked myself: “Do I want to keep feeling this way?” The answer was clear — no. And I acted.

But then I made a mistake. I started searching for the “right” people. I started trying to build the ideal circle around me — and something still didn’t feel right.

Eventually, I stopped looking. And I started building myself instead. Working. Growing. Learning. Moving forward. Every single day. And then it started to shift.

People began to appear. Unexpected meetings. New clients. Old friends returning.

Today, many of my clients are people I truly enjoy being around. We don’t just work — we talk, we share a meal, we grab coffee. There’s energy. There’s ease.

One recent meeting: I planned a short coffee with a longtime client — we ended up talking for six hours. And we could’ve gone longer.It happens more and more now — these simple, real, powerful connections.

I’m not here to teach. But I’ve lived this.

If you’re searching for the formula — maybe this is part of it:

Stop looking for the right people. Start becoming the person you want to be around.

Because when you change — your surroundings do too.

It’s a beautiful thing — when you leave a conversation feeling full. When you’ve shared your energy and received something meaningful in return.

When you walk away with clarity, hunger, warmth.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Find me on Instagram, and let’s talk about it. Because sometimes, a message like this is all someone needs to start moving.